Let’s be real for a second: how often do you feel like you need to have everything figured out? Whether it’s your job, your relationships, or your personal goals, there’s this constant pressure to know every single step, every outcome, and every answer. It’s exhausting, right?
What if I told you that the most powerful thing you could say to yourself right now is, “I don’t know”? Sounds strange, but hear me out. That simple phrase can open the door to everything you’re trying to create in your life, and it’s rooted in one of the deepest spiritual principles.
The Gift of Not Knowing
We’ve been trained to believe that “not knowing” is a problem. We think it means we’re failing or that we’re lost. But here’s the truth: saying “I don’t know” isn’t a weakness—it’s freedom. It’s stepping back from the need to control everything and letting life, or as I like to say, the divine flow, take over.
A few days ago, I had a call with a client who was leading an executive offsite. He was so caught up in the pressure to deliver the perfect experience that he was driving himself nuts trying to control every detail. I could practically feel the stress oozing through the phone.
I asked him a simple question: “What if you didn’t need to know?”
At first, he resisted. He’s a leader—he’s supposed to know, right? But as we kept talking, he started to see that by letting go of that need to know every step, he was actually creating space for the magic to happen. He didn’t have to control the entire day—he just needed to set the stage, ask the right questions, and let the wisdom of the group emerge.
Spoiler alert: It worked. The session flowed better than any he’d done before because he wasn’t forcing it.
Stop Forcing—Start Flowing
This isn’t just about work. Think about your relationships. How many times have you assumed what your partner or friend was thinking, only to find out later that you were way off? You filled in the blanks with your own stories instead of asking, “What’s really going on here?”
I’ve been there. Not long ago, I walked into my house and found my son crying. Immediately, I assumed my wife was ignoring him. My brain went into overdrive with “I know what’s happening” mode, and before I knew it, I was mad—at her, at the situation, at everything.
But guess what? I was wrong. What I thought I “knew” wasn’t even close to reality. If I had paused for a second and said, “I don’t know what’s going on here,” I would have saved myself a lot of unnecessary drama.
The lesson? When you let go of needing to know everything, you make space for truth. You open yourself up to seeing things as they are, not as you assume they are.
Trust the Process: You Don’t Need All the Steps
When it comes to personal growth and manifestation, “I don’t know” is your best friend. A lot of people get stuck in overthinking, trying to figure out every single detail of how they’ll achieve their goals. They end up feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and discouraged because they can’t see the full picture.
But here’s the thing—you don’t need to know the how. You only need to know the end. Focus on what you want and trust that the steps will reveal themselves when the time is right.
I once worked with a client who had been grinding for months to build his business. Hundreds of cold calls, constant rejection, and mounting frustration. He was stuck in the mindset of needing to know exactly how to make his business succeed. And because of that, he was spiraling.
What I told him was this: Stop worrying about how it’s going to happen. Instead, feel the end—feel the success, the freedom, the abundance. When you step into that state, you don’t need to figure out the details. The path will show up, and it won’t feel like force. It’ll feel like flow.
What You Can Do Today
Letting go of control doesn’t mean giving up. It means trusting that things are working out in ways you might not understand yet. Here are a few steps you can take to start practicing the power of “I don’t know” in your own life:
Catch Yourself in Control Mode: The next time you feel the pressure to have all the answers, pause. Remind yourself, “I don’t need to know right now,” and breathe into that space of uncertainty.
Shift Your Focus to the End: Instead of obsessing over how you’re going to achieve something, focus on how it will feel when you already have it. Imagine it, feel it, and let that feeling guide your actions.
Release Assumptions in Your Relationships: If you find yourself assuming what someone else is thinking or feeling, stop. Ask questions instead of making up stories in your head. Be open to what they actually have to say.
Let the Process Unfold: Trust that the right steps will reveal themselves. Focus on what you want to create and allow the “how” to show up in ways you may not have planned.
Practice Being in Your Ideal State: Throughout the day, ask yourself, “Am I being the version of me that already has what I want?” If not, shift into that state. From there, the details will take care of themselves.
Final Thoughts: Let’s Dance with the Unknown
The truth is, life is a lot more fun when you stop forcing and start flowing. By letting go of the need to know everything, you give yourself permission to play, to discover, and to manifest more than you ever thought possible.
So, let’s start dancing with the unknown. Let’s embrace the mystery and trust that the end is already yours, even if the steps aren’t clear yet.
If you’re ready to dive deeper into these teachings and explore how to rewire your imagination for success, I invite you to join the Faithful Visionary Project (FVP). This is where we do the real work of transforming our inner world so the outer world follows. Let’s create something extraordinary—together.
Peace and Hair Grease,
Jerry Emeka
